Change and improvement often arises where there is significant pain and feelings of anger and frustration arise when we interpret and react to certain situations at home, at work and in the community. These occur when we feel threatened or attacked, frustrated or powerless, we’re being ignored or treated unfairly or when people do not respect our feelings or possessions.
Yes, it’s time for change and improvement!
All of us interpret these negative situations differently, so a situation that makes you feel very angry or frustrated may not make me feel angry or frustrated at all (for example, other reactions could include annoyance, hurt or amusement). However, just because we can interpret things differently, it doesn’t mean that any of us are interpreting things ‘wrong’ if you get angry or frustrated.
How we interpret and react to a situation can depend on lots of factors in our life, including our childhood and upbringing, our past experiences and our current circumstances
Whether our anger and frustration is about something that happened in the past or something that’s going on right now, thinking about how and why we interpret and react to situations can help us learn how to cope with our emotions better. It can also help us find productive strategies to handle our anger and frustrations.
That’s why on Ideas-Shared you have the opportunity to initiate change and improvement through the listing of your anger or frustration in a ‘Blast’. Not only does this release these feelings, it also acts as a warning to others; plus with enough leverage (via the listing), it can enable mitigating activity to resolve the underlying issues. Yes it’s true, Ideas-Shared allows you to list more than just ideas. Clearly, if you’re angry or frustrated about something, then it’s unlikely that you’ll be in the right frame of mind to start thinking about new ideas, however, don’t forget about the possibility of initiating change and improvement anywhere you want.
Your Childhood and Upbringing
How we learn to cope with angry and frustrated feelings is often influenced by our upbringing. Many of us are given messages about anger and frustration as children that may make it harder to manage it as an adult.
For example, you may have grown up thinking that it’s always okay to act out your anger or frustrations aggressively or violently, and so you didn’t learn how to understand and manage your angry feelings. This could mean you have angry outbursts whenever you don’t like the way someone is behaving, or whenever you are in a situation you don’t like…
Or, you may have been brought up to believe that you shouldn’t complain, and may have been punished for expressing anger and frustration as a child. This could mean that you tend to suppress your anger and frustration and it becomes a long-term problem, where you react inappropriately to new situations you’re not comfortable with. If you don’t feel you can release your anger or frustration in a healthy way, you might also turn this inwards on yourself…
Or you may have witnessed your parents’ or other adults’ anger and frustration when it was out of control, and learned to think of anger and frustration as something that is destructive and terrifying. This could mean that you now feel afraid of your own anger and frustration and don’t feel safe expressing your feelings when something makes you angry and frustrated. Those feelings might then surface at another unconnected time, which may feel hard to explain.
With Ideas-Shared you can say it as it is as long as you meet our conditions of use. Ideas-Shared is a tool for all society globally to focus on the issues. We can’t pluck new ideas out of the ether unless we first know where best to focus our efforts.
If you’ve experienced particular situations in the past that made you feel angry or frustrated, such as abuse, trauma or bullying (either as a child or more recently as an adult), and you weren’t able to safely express your anger or frustration at the time, you might still be coping with those angry and frustrated feelings now and need to obtain professional help.
Sometimes your present feeling of anger or frustration may not be about a current situation at all, rather it may be related to a past experience. Becoming aware of these situations can help us navigate beyond feelings of anger and frustration in order to follow a more productive route.
If you’re dealing with a lot of other problems in your life right now, you might find yourself feeling angry and frustrated more easily than usual, or getting angry and frustrated at unrelated things.
Ideas-Shared Blast & Problem Listing
At Ideas-Shared we recognise that many people can be angry and frustrated with many things at once which simply compound all of the issues at hand. Our goal is to help alleviate such instances, improve quality of life and focus on idea development to resolve all manner of negativity. Therefore, consider using our ‘Blast’ and ‘Problem’ listings to carefully articulate the issues at hand and ask for help to resolve these.
You see, when enough people share their negative and positive thoughts, we have a chance to focus on the issues and change them. At the very least, we may be able to stop others from having the same experiences. So what’s on your mind that you might want to share?